I have been re-reading the book God Speaks YOur Love Language by Gary Chapman and had such a pivital moment yesterday. I was at the YMCA at the pool. My daughter was swimming and I brought the book to read. I started going through the chapter that has the 5 love languages briefly described. I had been thinking my hubbie was Acts of Service but I got it wrong. He is quality time. The first thing it says is Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention. I must have missed that the first time I read it or maybe it was because literally my hubbie said I just want you to give me your attention recently but now I know what he is. I also looked carefully at the other love languages. My daugher is quality time too! She was yelling at me from the pool to watch her and I realized she so just wants my undivided attention too. Now, I am not talking like every waking moment has to be given to them but when they are asking for it, that is when I really have to step up and give them the attention so they feel I do love them. I already discussed this with my sister and mom on our trip when I bought this book and we figured them out. Mom is gifts and Susan is quality time too. I think my Dad and Mary are both acts of service because they seem to do best only when you are in a crisis and need help. They are all over helping you but all that in between time I am not feeling the love. I am wondering about how you can do acts of service when you have live so far away from each other? That is something I will have to figure out so that they know that I love them. I want to be able to speak their love language. Mom already determined she thought Lyle is Physical Touch and I think Tristan is that too. He is such a hugger. Loves to give hugs. Now that he's a teenager I will have to find other ways of physical touch like high fives and pats on the back. You know how teenagers can get with hugging. I also came up with some questions that we probably ask God. Here's what I came up with for each love language:
Words of Affirmation: I can't hear you God. What are you trying to tell me?
Quaility Time: Where is God when I need him?
Gifts: What has God given me?
Acts of Service: What has God done for me?
Physcial Touch: Are you with me God?
Just some things we may be saying to ourselves when we aren't feeling God in our lives. I am Words of Affirmation so I know now that I feel God most when I am reading the bible, listening to a sermon and singing a worship song. I have to continue this later but had to get some of this out...
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